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Teaching her to be Strong

This past Friday school was out, so I brought the kiddo to work with me. It’s an adventure for her. A place to explore. For me, I’m learning it’s a place for me to teach her how to be strong, thoughtful, and independent now and as she grows into the woman she will become. It’s always in the back of my mind, but sometimes with all the things going on in our lives as moms, we forget how we are examples for our daughters to become strong women who can do whatever they want to be.

On my wall at work, Samantha left me a note:

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“Happy work day with me. Love you. I know you don’t get to spend that much time with me, but I will always love you. xoxo 11-11-2016”

I was crushed when I first read it. Just trying to stop the tears from coming was almost too much. Does she really see me as this person that is always at work? But then someone reminded me that when she grows up, she will use the example I have set for her to know she can do whatever she wants. She will be independent. She will be strong.

All of this reminded me that after the election, after talking to my daughter about the possibility (and my hope) that we would have the first woman president, that she should always dream bigger. That she can be whatever she wants to be when she grows up. To not settle.

In my journey (and struggles) to get healthy as well, I have loved sharing the process and struggles with her. How I try to push myself to get stronger physically…go farther on a run…lift heavier…or try a new workout even though it looks hard. To set a goal, put your mind to it and overcome the obstacles.

Samantha amazes me every day. She’s an avid writer. Lover of all music. She has a competitive spirit. Kind and empathetic. She’s already so strong now; I can’t wait to see what kind of Super Woman she will become.

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Anniversary of Change

Today is a special day. It’s always been a special day. A day of celebration for one of my greatest and oldest friend’s birthday. And now the 3rd anniversary of my wake up call to change my life.

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I went for a run this morning.  I needed a change in my workouts and I thought, change is hard.  Period.  End of sentence.  I honestly detest change.

I grew up in the same house my entire life, I knew the same bedroom until I was eighteen. One of my first big “changes” in my life was moving away for college and I mentally fought it tooth and nail. Each time there is change in my life my body, brain and everything from my head to toes says, “No, thank you!”

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But here’s the thing…since making the change to become a healthier person those 3 years ago I’ve learned to overcome that overwhelming sense to fight change.

Embrace the change.

Don’t believe for one second that it isn’t hard to fight because my mind and body still go against change as much as it can, but deep, way deep down, I’ve now learned that taking that leap of whatever you want to call it to make the change is almost always worth it. Sure you will trip up, you will have your ups and downs, but if you set the goals you want to achieve and stay the course you will get there.  As I listened to Shaun T’s podcast this morning, he said,

You have to TRUST & BELIEVE in yourself that you can do whatever you decide to do!

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I don’t always win the fight either.  For me, I’ve learned that along the path to change, to achieve a goal, you have to be flexible. You have to “go with the flow” and make adjustments along the way. But that’s what change is all about. A lot of times if we think of the little changes along the way instead of the one giant mountain of change we are about to face it makes it a little easier to overcome that overwhelming urge to run away screaming and go cry in the corner.

We’ve had some big changes in our family lately and probably many more to come, but one of the most important ones was Sammo heading to kindergarten.  It was huge.  For me, for her, for Mike.  It’s changed our schedules, what we have to accomplish at night and in the morning, but one thing I am so impressed with is how Sam takes it all in strides.

She embraces the changes head on.  She loves the idea of a new adventure ahead.

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So on this 3rd anniversary of an always day of celebration I ask you to take the leap. Commit to one change. One small goal. You never know how one small change can turn into a 140 other changes to get you to a healthier, happier you.